Subject: No More Whying
Welcome to Celebrating the Journey!
Wednesday, July 11, 2001
TABLE OF CONTENTS
1. Welcome Notes
2. No More Whying!
4 Celebrating Out Loud
5. Humor: Murphy’s Laws on Work
6. Resources: Thomas Leonard and Phil Humbert
1. Welcome Notes
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I want to remind you about our Celebrating Out Loud
section. Most of us are not taught to celebrate ourselves,
our accomplishments, our dreams, our small wins, our
big victories, our ah-has or simply a beautiful sunset.
Celebrating Out Loud provides a place to say “Yippee!” or
“I did it!” or “I’m 50!” or “I saw a beautiful fox”. Email
your celebrations, wins, ah-has, birthdays, etc. to
mailto:email@example.com so we can share
them with you.
2. No More Whying!
Why did that happen to me?
Why did he do that to me?
Why did I lose my job?
Why did my house burn down?
Why did I get into a bad relationship again?
Why didn’t my marriage work?
Why don’t I have any money?
Why is the sky blue?
The dictionary definition of the word why is: used
interrogatively; for what cause, reason or purpose. That
sounds like a useful question. Knowing the reason or
cause or purpose for something can help us change it,
Not usually! We tend to use why questions to come up
with excuses for the way our life is rather than for ways to
change it. Why questions are difficult to answer at best,
and too often, the answers serve to discourage us and keep
us stuck rather than provide tools and ideas for moving
We can ask, “Why did this happen to me?” or we can ask,
“What steps lead up to this event? How could I have done
it differently? Where do I want to go from here? Who can
support me in getting there?
Why is a negative question, too often leading to nothing
but negative answers that thicken the mud in which
we’re already standing. How, What, Where, Who
questions are positive ones. They lead us to the actions
and ideas that provide the means for unsticking
Knowing the purpose for something can have good use.
Larry Winget’s words in the Quotes section is an example
of that. And notice that his first question is a What
question. Only then does he ask Why.
For the most part we humans use Why and its answers as
glue rather than as wings. It’s your choice. Ask the
question that gives you permission to stay stuck or ask the
questions that invite, encourage, advocate, inspire,
motivate, and teach you to fly.
A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, it sings
because it has a song.
For the things we have to learn before we can do them, we
learn by doing them.
Once you know what you want, know why you want it.
with a strong enough why you can endure any how.
If you don’t make things happen then things will happen
Every year I resolve to be a little less the me I know and
leave a little room for the me I could be.
4. Celebrating Out Loud
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more
there is in life to celebrate.
This is the place where we celebrate the journey of life
with one another. E-mail your birthday, anniversary,
accomplishment, shift, ah-ha or joyful moment to
mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org. Let us know what
great stuff is happening in your life!
July 5: Becky Jackson celebrated her 57th birthday. Becky
has for many years expanded her birthday celebration into
the whole month, making July 31 days of celebration! This
is a great idea! You can celebrate with Becky by emailing
her at mailto:email@example.com
July 8: I climbed my first 14er of the summer. (The goal is
once again 10.) Mt. Missouri has been added to the list!
July 10: I saw a beautiful fox, hunting for mice by the side
of the road, on my way home from a softball game. It was
a lovely ending to a somewhat stressful day and changed
my whole attitude.
Know someone who’s celebrating a great occasion? Or a
small one? What better gift than to forward them a copy
of Celebrating the Journey with a celebratory wish in it.
Let’s spread the joy!
5. Humor: Murphy’s Laws on Work
A pat on the back is only a few centimeters from a kick in
Don’t be irreplaceable, if you can’t be replaced, you can’t be
The more junk you put up with, the more junk you are
going to get.
You can go anywhere you want, if you look serious and
carry a clipboard.
Never ask two questions in a business letter. The reply
will discuss the one you are least interested in and say
nothing about the other.
If at first you don’t succeed, try again. Then quit. No use
being a fool about it.
There will always be beer cans rolling on the floor of your
car when the boss asks for a ride home from the office.
Everything can be filed under “miscellaneous.”
To err is human, to forgive is not company policy.
Anyone can do any amount of work provided it isn’t the
work he is supposed to be doing.
Important letters that contain no errors will develop
errors in the mail.
There is never enough time to do it right the first time,
but there is always enough time to do it over.
If you are good, you will be assigned all the work. If you
are really good, you will get out of it.
You are always doing something marginal when the boss
drops by your desk.
If it wasn’t for the last minute, nothing would get done.
When you don’t know what to do, walk fast and look
You will always get the greatest recognition for the job you
The longer the title, the less important the job.
Machines that have broken down will work perfectly
when the repairman arrives.
6. Resources: The wisdom of Thomas Leonard and Phil
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Incredibly, he has priced a LIFETIME membership for
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Phil Humbert’s Resources for Success
In the midst of writing this issue of CTJ, I received the
TIP’s newsletter published by my good friend and fellow
coach Phil Humbert. His topic was The Questions of
Success and his theme was: To transform your life, ask
better questions. It’s a great one along the same lines as
this issue of CTJ. You can read it at :
clicking on 7/8/01.
Phil’s website is filled with resources for creating the life
you really want. Visit it at
http://www.philiphumbert.com and look around. His
TIPs email newsletter is still the one I recommend most
highly (after CTJ, of course!). You can subscribe on his site,
and I encourage you to do just that.
Margo has a few slots open for motivated clients who
want to create a successful life and have the time to enjoy
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