Subject: Declare Your Independence

Welcome to Celebrating the Journey!
Thursday, July 6, 2000
Issue #29


1. Welcome Notes
2. Declare Your Independence
3. Coaching: Quit Paying the Taxes!
5. Humor: Great Truths About Life
6. Reading For The Journey
7. Your Best Year Yet Workshop

1. Welcome Notes

To all who are new to Celebrating The Journey, a hearty
welcome. And to my ongoing readers, thank you for your
loyalty. It tells me that you are receiving value from CTJ,
and that is my goal. I invite you to let me know what you
find valuable; what you’d like to see more of; what less of.
Any ideas for new sections?

I have “1 and 2” of my goal of “10 and 10” for the summer:
1 14er and 2 nights sleeping out. How are you doing with
your summer goals? How can CTJ support you in
reaching them? Let me know at

2. Declare Your Independence From What’s Not
Working In Your Life

July 4th has always marked the middle of the year for me.
It is the time I examine where I am on the journey to
having this year be the year I REALLY want. Am I halfway
there? Am I moving in the direction I want to go? What
are my priorities for the last 6 months of this year? What
do I need to do more of? What less? And what do I need
to let go of altogether? Am I walking a true course?

What about your course? Where are you on the path of
having 2000 be the year you want it to be? Are you having
the year you envisioned? Are you moving in the
direction of your goals and dreams at the pace you’d like?

The 4th of July is not only Independence Day for our
country. It is a day for us to take stock, reevaluate, declare
our own independence from the habits and beliefs that
have been keeping us stuck.

A primary issue for the Colonies was taxation without
representation. By repeating old behaviors over and over
again when they don’t give us the results we want, we are
in essence taxing ourselves without representation. Our
old beliefs are running our lives without the
representation of our minds and hearts.

3. Coaching: Quit paying the taxes!

Make a change.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and
expecting the results to be different. If you’re not sure
what it is that isn’t working, change something. Change
just one thing. Do one thing differently.

Take out the list of your Top Ten Goals for the year 2000. If
you didn’t make one at the beginning of the year, make it
now. Are they really your Top Ten Goals? Are they based
on your values rather than on what you think you
“should” do or be? Do they need to be changed in any
way? Make sure that each goal is based on what is truly
important to you.

On a separate piece of paper, make two columns. On the
left, list the goals which you are well on your way to
reaching. On the right, list the ones toward which you
have made less progress than you had intended.

Under each item on the left, list three actions you are
taking that are moving you toward the goal. Under each
item on the right, list three actions you’re taking or not
taking that are moving you away from the goal.

Now for each item on the right, choose one thing, one
action, to do differently (hint: look at what’s working on
the left for ideas). That’s all. Just one. Write it down. Then
go do it!

A guided missile, which travels an amazingly long
distance to reach a target with great accuracy, is off course
90% of the time. It is in an almost constant state of self-
correction. Declare your independence from sticking to an
old straight-and-narrow course that isn’t getting you
where you want to be.

Do one thing differently to achieve the life you REALLY


When you discover you are riding a dead horse, the best
strategy is to dismount.
Dakota tribal saying

We don’t need to learn how to let things go; we just need
to learn to recognize when they’ve already gone.
Suzuki Roshi

It’s easier to ride the horse in the direction in which it is
Werner Erhard

Figure out what sucks, then don’t do THAT! unofficial motto
5. Humor: Great Truths About Life That…

Little Children Have Learned

1. When your Mom is mad at your Dad, don’t let her
brush your hair.
2. You can’t trust dogs to watch your food.
3. Never hold a Dust-Buster and a cat at the same time.
4. Don’t wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.
5. The best place to be when you’re sad is Grandpa’s lap.

Adults Have Learned

1. Raising teenagers is like nailing Jell-O to a tree.
2. Today’s mighty oak is just yesterday’s nut that held its
3. Laughing helps. It’s like jogging on the inside.
4. My mind not only wanders; sometimes it leaves
5. If you can remain calm, you just don’t have all the

Apply to Growing Old

1. Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional.
2. God put me on earth to accomplish a certain number
of things. Right now I am so far behind, I will live forever.
3. It’s frustrating when you know all the answers, but
nobody bothers to ask you the questions.
4. I finally got my head together, and my body fell apart.
5. Just when I was getting used to yesterday, along came

6. Reading For The Journey

The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

In the very first issue of Celebrating The Journey I
included a poem called “The Invitation”. This profound
writing became the framework for this wise and inspiring
book about which Gail Hudson writes, “Chapter by
chapter, the author uses passages from her “Invitation” to
welcome readers into a life that is more soul fulfilling and
passionate, and has far greater truth and integrity. In a
sense, she invites readers to get a life instead of buying
into a lifestyle. Each chapter ends with a guided
meditation specific to the theme of the chapter, such as
“The Joy” and “The Failure.”

Wayne Dyer called this book, “an invitation to the
ultimate dance.” I heartily agree. Enrich your life by
ordering this book for only $12.60:

Do One Thing Different and Other Uncommonly Sensible
Solutions to Life’s Persistent Problems by Bill O’Hanlon.

“WARNING: This book may cause severe disruption to
old beliefs and unhelpful patterns. You may have no place
to go but toward your heart’s and soul’s desire.” So reads
the cover of this book which challenges readers to focus
on the here and now and adjust their behavior to change
the situation. O’Hanlon provides 10 simple “Solution
Keys” that instructs readers how to think of a problem in
their lives and solve it. Simple and surprisingly rarely
simplistic, this book contains a wealth of ideas, examples,
and illustrations which demonstrate that it is sometimes
much simpler (and easier) to change our lives than we
think it is. This is a great tool for eliminating those
behaviors that you just can’t seem to get a handle on. You
can order it here for only $15.40:

Your Best Year Yet by Jinny Ditzler.

How would you like the next 12 months to be your best
yet? Who wouldn’t, right?

This book has been described as “Simple Abundance”
meets “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.” Ditzler
leads you through 10 thought-provoking questions on a
cognitive journey to creating a simple one-page plan for
having the next 12 months be Your Best Year Yet. It has
received the highest 5 star rating on, a rare

I always believed I was not a goal-setter. It just wasn’t my
thing. This model has changed that forever. It directs the
reader in setting goals which are based on what you really
want rather than what you think you should want. It then
provides clear, simple tools for staying focused on those
goals. This book is a life changer which grew out of the
Your Best Year Yet Workshops (see Opportunities for the
Journey). It is available for only $10.36:

7. Your Best Year Yet Workshop

John Gray said about Your Best Year Yet, “Personal success
does not have to be years away. [Your Best Year Yet]
masterfully guides you from thought to action and
inspires you to start actualizing your heart’s desires this

Can the next 12 months of YOUR life be your Best Year
Yet? You bet it can! This 3 1/2 hour workshop leads you to
a simple one-page plan for exactly that, and provides
tools to support you in following the plan. It’s a small
investment with a big return! The cost of the workshop
includes a copy of the book of the same name. The two
together provide an incredibly powerful model for
creating Your Best Year Yet.

I am offering the Your Best Year Yet Workshop in Aspen
on July 29th from 8:30 am to 12:15 pm. Any CTJ subscriber
receives a 20% discount.

For details visit,
email, or
call 1-888-704-9336.

I have 2 slots open for motivated clients who want to
create a successful life and have the time to enjoy
it. Every dedicated athlete has a coach. Why not
have a coach for the most important game of all: the
game of life. To schedule a consultation, send an email to

Give yourself the gift of Internal Tax Relief this week.

Namaste, Margo

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