Subject: Subtle Addictions

Welcome to Celebrating the Journey!
Monday, May 15, 2000
Issue #23


1. Welcome Notes
2. Subtle Addictions
3. Coaching: Release Your Addictions and Become
5. Reading for the Journey
6. Humor: Delightfully Useless Information
7. Your Best Year Yet: Negative Drivers = Subtle
8. Resources for Your Journey: Coaching for the
NeedLess Program
9. Shameless Marketing: Room for 3 Clients and
Best Year Yet in Boston

1. Welcome Notes

We have gone from a gorgeous, warm week of sunshine
to snow and back again here in the mountains of
Colorado. A typical May with its deepening greens and
widely varying temperatures. There is something
immensely sweet about purple pansies peeking through
the snow.

As you may have noticed, the arrival of CTJ has been a bit
sporadic over the last few weeks. I am in the midst of
somewhat of a rite of passage that is requiring a great deal
of focus and energy. I value you, my subscribers, and it is
my intention for you to receive the gift of Celebrating The
Journey each Monday. And like you, I am an imperfect
human being, and sometimes it doesn’t happen that way.

As always, the purpose of CTJ is to provide you with tools
for you to Celebrate Your Journey. I invite you to let me
know how I can better do that.

A hearty welcome to our new subscribers. The count is at
813! Thanks to all of you who pass CTJ along. My goal is to
reach 900 by the end of May. Ready to take up the
challenge? I have an incentive for you.

All who refer 10 new subscribers will be invited to join a
special Celebrate Your Journey coaching group to be held
in July. The group will meet with me on the phone for 4
1-hour coaching sessions during which we will address
what gets in the way of your Journey being exactly the way
you want it to be.

Email me with a list of people you have forwarded CTJ to.
When 10 of them show up on my subscription list, and
they’re still there at the end of June, you’re a part of the
group! Email me at for
further details.

2. Subtle Addictions

Many of us hold the picture of an addict as someone who
is nonfunctional: a drug-addicted homeless person; an
alcoholic who is either drunk or passed out all the time;
compulsive overeaters whose obesity prevents them from
leaving their home. The truth is we all have addictions in
our lives, “subtle addictions” that prevent us from
realizing our full potential.

David Smith, a physician and founder of the Haight-
Ashbury Clinic in the 60’s, defines addiction as use or
abuse of a substance OR PROCESS in spite of adverse
consequences. These subtle addictions, which have not-so-
subtle consequences, often serve as negative energy
sources for us. They give us energy temporarily, but with a
high cost at the back end. Another term for them is
Personal Needs.

We all need air, water, shelter, love and food. These are
our physical needs. Personal Needs are things we must
have to be ourselves, but somehow never have enough
of. And we’ll do anything, even if it’s self destructive, to
get that thing we so desperately need.

Most of us know someone who cannot stand to be alone.
We watch them go through bad relationship after bad
relationship, pairing up with anyone rather than be alone.
These people are addicted to relationship; their need to
not be alone dominates the rest of their life.

Do you know someone who is usually late for
appointments? Who drinks lots of caffeinated beverages?
Who lives on the edge financially? Who juggles several
projects at once? These people are usually addicted to
adrenaline. They use being late, caffeine, the anxiety of
financial insecurity, the pressure of constant deadlines to
fuel themselves. Their need for adrenaline destroys their
ability to self-motivate based on what they really care

These addictions or Personal Needs may appear subtle
compared to alcoholism or an eating addiction, but their
impact on our lives is anything but subtle. To create the
freedom, joy and success you want in your life, handle

3. Coaching: Release Your Addictions and Become NeedLess

What are you addicted to? What Personal Needs run your life?

Some common ones are:

Being Right
Gaining Approval
Being Needed
Having Money
Being Loved
Not Being Alone
Being Accepted

There are many others. Identifying these addictions and
satisfying the Personal Needs that are behind them is
essential to our evolution.

Answering questions outlined in the NeedLess Program
developed by Coach University is a very effective way to
start the process of identifying and eliminating the ways
in which you limit yourself from having the life you
really want. To receive a list of Personal Needs and some
questions to help you identify and meet YOUR Personal
Needs, send an email to with your snail mail
address in the body of the email.

Identifying your Personal Needs and learning how to get
them met in a healthy way develops a strong base from
which to create success in your life. You can strengthen
YOUR base with one of 2 special Coaching Programs. Both
are focused on identifying and meeting your 3 primary
Personal Needs and are described in the Resources For
Your Journey section below.

Take the actions to identify and release the Subtle
Addictions and meet the Personal Needs in your life. In so
doing, you create the space for having the life you really


Needs do not cease to be because they have been ignored.
Aldous Huxley

If it needs adrenaline, it’s not a task it’s a problem.
Thomas Leonard

To confront a person with his own shadow is to show
him his own light.
Carl Jung

While aimlessly waiting for their so-called “ship” to come
in and change their life for the better, far too many people
miss the boat that could actually carry them to a brighter
future. They are often so afraid of testing new waters that
they spend an entire lifetime waiting on the shore…Begin
your journey now!
Josh Hinds

5. Reading For The Journey

Take Time For Your Life, by Cheryl Richardson.

Cheryl Richardson has a passion for “living well”, and her
book is filled with wisdom, practical tips, truth and a great
deal of fun that will guide you in having it all, right now!
One reader wrote the following: “After reading ‘Take
Time’, I changed my business… The result? Surprisingly,
same income, less hassle, and MORE FREE TIME! Thanks
Cheryl. Stressed out souls everywhere should make time
for your book.” I agree! If you think the false sources of
energy you’re addicted to are what will help you achieve
success, read this book! Phil Humbert, one of my favorite
coaches, says, “If you don’t have time to read this book —
read this book!” That’s great advice. I encourage you to
take it. Amazon will send it to you for only $16.10 if you
click here:

The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom by Suze Orman.

If one of your “subtle” addictions is to struggle with
money, this book will help you move on. It’s been a huge
seller for a reason — it works! This book is an easy reading
gem that makes practical, down-to-earth sense about
money and how to use money and your relationship with
it, to have the life you want rather than staying stuck in
struggle. This isn’t investment banker talk or a sales pitch.
It’s just simple, clearly written information that can
change your life. Click here to order it for only $16.10, and
it will be delivered right to your door!

The Portable Coach by Thomas Leonard.

Thomas Leonard is the founder of Coach University and
one of the fathers of Personal Coaching. He has put his 28
Principles of Attraction into book format. Along with
some of Coach University’s challenging self-test materials,
these 28 steps open a path to success that won’t leave you
feeling hollow, soulless or exhausted from struggling to
achieve. This book presents a fun and highly encouraging
blueprint for success and for honoring yourself and
remaking your world on your own terms. Chapter 13, Get
Your Personal Needs Met, Once and For All, is a wealth of
information on releasing the Subtle Addictions and
dealing with your Personal Needs. Click here to start
becoming Irresistibly Attractive today for only

6. Humor:

The following was sent to me by my dear friend Stewart
Brown, offered in his unending quest to bring us more
useless facts.

If you yelled for 8 years, 7 months and 6 days, you would
have produced enough sound energy to heat one cup of
(Hardly seems worth it!)

If you fart consistently for 6 years and 9 months, enough
gas is produced to create the energy of an atomic bomb.
(Now that’s more like it!)

The human heart creates enough pressure when it pumps
out to the body to squirt blood 30 feet.

A pig’s orgasm lasts for 30 minutes.
(In my next life I want to be a pig!)

Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories an
(Still not over that pig thing!)

The ant can lift 50 times its own weight, can pull 30 times
its own weight and always falls over on its right side
when intoxicated.
A cockroach will live nine days without its head,
before it starves to death.

The male praying mantis cannot copulate while its head
is attached to its body. The female initiates sex by ripping
the males head off.
(“Honey, I’m home. What the….”)

Some lions mate over 50 times a day.
(In my next life I still want to be a pig…quality over

Butterflies taste with their feet.
(Oh, geez! I really didn’t need to know that)

Elephants are the only animals that can’t jump.
(OK, so that would be a good thing …)

A cat’s urine glows under a blacklight.
(I really didn’t need to know that either)

An ostrich’s eye is bigger than it’s brain.
(I know some people like that.)

Starfish don’t have brains.
(I know some people like that too!)

Polar bears are left handed.
(Who knew? Who cares!)

Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex
for pleasure.
(What about the pig?)

7. Your Best Year Yet: Negative Drivers = Subtle

In the Workshop we distinguish between Negative
Drivers and Personal Values. Negative Drivers are Subtle
Addictions and Unmet Personal Needs under another
name. Until you release them and get them met, it is
difficult to determine what your Personal Values really
are. What Negative Drivers are driving you?

8. Resources For Your Journey: Coaching for the
NeedLess Program

On An Individual Basis

6 1/2-hour individual coaching sessions spread over a 60
day period guide you in identifying, clarifying and
meeting your top 3 Personal Needs using the NeedLess
Program format. Find out what’s keeping you from
reaching your potential and shift it from a liability to an
asset! When you’re ready to do some very focused work
on meeting your Personal Needs, this is the program for
you! The cost is $300. To sign up or find out more, send an
email to

In A Group Format

6 1-hour group coaching sessions over a 60 day period in
June and July with the same goal as the Individual
program: to guide you in identifying, clarifying and
meeting your top 3 Personal Needs. This format offers the
support, community and creativity of a group of
people all moving toward the same goal. The day and
time of the call will be determined with the input of the
participants. The cost is $180. To sign up or find out more,
send an email to

9. Shameless Marketing

I have space in my coaching practice for 3 people who are
excited about discovering and living all the possibilities of
their life. Call me at 1-888-704-9336 to set up an
introductory session and experience how coaching works.
I’d love to support you in having all the success,
freedom and joy you REALLY want in your life.


This is the last chance for all you Boston area folks to take
the Best Year Yet Workshop at a 20% discount!

I am offering the Your Best Year Yet Workshop in Boston
on Friday, May 19 from 8:30 am to 12:15 pm at The
Brookline Holiday Inn. All CTJ subscribers receive a 20%
discount for this workshop. You can attend for only $100!

John Gray said about Your Best Year Yet, “Personal success
does not have to be years away. [Your Best Year Yet]
masterfully guides you from thought to action and
inspires you to start actualizing your heart’s desires this

Can the next 12 months of YOUR life be your Best Year
Yet? You bet it can! This 3 1/2 hour workshop leads you to
a simple one-page plan for exactly that, and provides
tools to support you in following the plan. It’s a small
investment with a big return!

To register or for more information call 1-888-704-9336 or

Give yourself the gift of being NeedLess this week.

Namaste, Margo

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