Subject: Living with Integrity

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Welcome to Celebrating the Journey!
Monday, April 24, 2000
Issue #22


1. Welcome Notes
2. Living With Integrity
3. Coaching: What Do You See in the Mirror?
4. Quotes: I’M LOST
5. Humor: Dr. Suess Explains Computers
6. Your Best Year Yet: What Do You Truly Value?
7. Shameless Marketing: Your Best Year Yet Discount!

1. Welcome Notes

It is a gorgeous spring day here in Connecticut. I am with
my father for his 83rd birthday, enjoying a warm breezy
day following a blustery, rainy Easter Sunday. Spring has
come earlier here than to my mountain home, and tulips
and daffodils sing colorfully amidst the myriad shades of
green that house the returning bird population. The world
seems to be celebrating along with my Dad.

For those of you who noticed that CTJ did not arrive last
Monday, your computers are fine. It was a stomach virus
which prevented its delivery and almost my trip east. All is
well, now, and I fully intend that to be the last illness of the
year 2000!

2. Living With Integrity

A good friend died suddenly about a month ago, and
although I was unable to be at her memorial service, the
program for the service had a marvelous poem on its back
page. It is a terrific tribute to my friend Chris and nourishing
food for thought for those of us who are alive.


I have to live with myself, and so
I want to be fit for myself to know,
I want to be able, as days go by,
Always to look myself straight in the eye;
I don’t want to stand, with the setting sun,
And hate myself for things I Have done.

I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf
A lot of secrets about myself
And fool myself, as I come and go,
Into thinking that nobody else will know
The kind of a man I really am;
I don’t want to dress up myself in sham.

I want to go out with my head erect,
I want to deserve all men’s respect;
But here in the struggle for fame and self
I want to be able to like myself.
I don’t want to look at myself and know
That I’m bluster and bluff and empty show.

I can never hide myself from me;
I see what others may never see;
I know what others may never know,
I never can fool myself, and so,
Whatever happens, I want to be
Self-respecting and conscience free.

Edgar A. Guest

3. Coaching

We all want to be viewed in a positive light by the people we
love and care about and work with. And yet, in the final
analysis, it is what we know to be true about ourselves that
we live with every day.

It is important to know how we are seen by others; how
they perceive our actions; how effective our communication
is. We learn from constructive input from others. We learn
even more from taking an honest look at our actions, our
beliefs, our choices, and being willing to take all our secrets
off the closet shelf.

Living with integrity, faithful to our values, is a vital step in
creating true freedom in our lives.

What secrets are you keeping about yourself that you’d be
embarrassed for your best friend to know?

Have you done something that you justified by saying, “Oh,
it won’t matter this time?”

Have you hidden an action behind the words, “Oh, it doesn’t
matter. Nobody will know?”

Well, somebody does know. YOU know. No matter how
good we are at shoving things under the rug, we always
know what we have done and said and thought. No matter
how well we hide things from other people, WE know the
truth about ourselves.

Ask yourself those questions, answer them truthfully, and
look at your eyes in the mirror. Are your eyes welcoming,
clear and proud? Or are they furtive, wanting to look away?
Do you like what you see in your eyes? If not, where are
you out of integrity in your life?


I’ve gone to look for myself.
If I return before I get back,
Please ask me to wait.
Sign on a nursing home door

It is not enough to possess virtue as if it were an art.
It should be practiced.
Marcus Tullius Cicero

5. Humor:

If a packet hits a pocket on a socket on a port,
And the bus is interrupted as a very last resort,
And the address of the memory makes your floppy disk
Then the socket packet pocket has an error to report.

If your cursor finds a menu item followed by a dash,
And the double-clicking icon puts your window in the trash,
And your data is corrupted cause the index doesn’t hash,
Then your situation’s hopeless and your system’s gonna

If the label on the cable on the table at your house,
Says the network is connected to the button on your mouse,
But your packets want to tunnel on another protocol,
That’s repeatedly rejected by the printer down the hall,
And your screen is all distorted by the side effects of gauss,
So your icons in the window are as wavy as a souse,
Then you may as well reboot and go out with a bang,
‘Cause as sure as I’m a poet, the sucker’s gonna hang!

When the copy of your floppy’s getting sloppy on the disk,
and the macrocode instructions cause unnecessary risk,
Then you have to flash you memory and you’ll want to
RAM your ROM.
Quickly turn off the computer…
And be sure to tell your Mom.

I received this from my sister Barb. The original source is

6. Your Best Year Yet

Question 5 of the ten questions in the Your Best Year Yet
process is: What Are My Personal Values?

We cannot know whether we are being true to ourselves
until we know what we truly value. What do you truly value
in your life? Honesty, Adventure, Intimacy, Family,
Inspiring Others. These are some common values. What are

7. Shameless Marketing

Your Best Year Yet Special!

I have 2 YBYY workshops scheduled in the next month. I’m
offering a 20% discount on registration to all CTJ subscribers
for any Your Best Year Yet workshop in the months of April
and May. John Gray said about Your Best Year Yet,
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desires this year.”

Can the next 12 months of YOUR life be your Best Year
Yet? You bet it can! This 3 1/2 hour workshop leads you to
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Workshop dates and locations are:

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Margo has a few slots open for motivated clients who
want to create a successful life and have the time to enjoy
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Give yourself the gift of integrity this week.

Namaste, Margo

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