Subject: Celebrating The Journey: Step Six: Goal Play

Welcome to Celebrating the Journey!
Friday, March 28, 2003
Issue #109

Stop worrying about the potholes in the road and
celebrate the journey!
Fitzhugh Mullan and Barbara Hoffman

1. Welcome Notes
2. Step Six: Goal Play
3. Coaching: Get Curious About Your Goals
4. Quotes for the Journey
5. Opportunities for the Journey
6. Celebrating Out Loud
7. Humor: What’s In A name?

1. Welcome Notes

There are exquisite high cirrus clouds creating lace in
the morning sky. They have flowed from rich orange
into warm peach and finally to pale, pale yellow. The
sun will shortly peek above the trees, sending its light
into my office window and all of Santa Cruz.

The sun unites each of us on this planet as nothing
else does. It touches every one of us each day.
Perhaps you can take a moment today and send
along with the light of the sun your blessings for
peace, for each of the beings who will be touched by
its brightness.

I will be away at a workshop next week so you will
have two weeks to get curious about your goals. CTJ
will return on April 11 to discuss the seventh and final
step of this journey to setting successful goals.

We can each be active in ending this war. It doesn’t
require marching or making phone calls or waving a
flag. You only need reach out to someone with love
today. That is how each of us can play a part in
creating peace. Reach out a helping hand, a smile, a
hug, some comfort to another person. You will both
be the better for it, and your action will send the
message of peace into the world.

This is the seventh in a series of eight issues on The
Seven Steps to Successful Goal Setting. You can read
the previous six, and all past issues of CTJ, at

2. Step 6: Goal Play

We are much more likely to take the steps necessary
to achieve a goal when we are really familiar with the
goal and what it will bring us. How we think about
our goals, the words we use to describe them, the
feelings that surround them are powerful motivators
— either towards or away from the goals we have set.

So get in there and play with your goals. Mush them
around like a hunk of clay; look at them from
different angles; visualize the moment of achieving
them and celebrate it. In short, get really curious
about them.

Let your intuition talk to you about your goals. Your
INKLES (see Trust Your Inkles from September 26,
2001 at will
tell you which goals really “fit” you and which ones
belong to other people or are “shoulds”; which ones
make your heart beat faster with excitement and
which ones make your shoulders droop with dread;
which ones entice you forward and which ones feel
like a bulldozer shoving you from behind.

Bring the overflowing curiosity of a child to your
goals to greatly increase your success in reaching

3. Coaching: Get Curious About Your Goals

Curiosity about our goals will manifest in different
questions for each of us. Try them on, see how they
fit, see how they feel. The questions below are
suggestions only. Use them or make up your own.
The important thing is to ask questions, lots of
questions, about each goal.

The more you know and own your goals, the more
likely you are to achieve them. Dive in, swim around,
take a deep breath and dive deeper into the pool of
your goals. You’ll know which ones fit you best.

Visualize reaching the goal. How do you feel? How is
your life different? What are the rewards of achieving
the goal?

What color is the goal? What flavor is it?

How much joy is there in this goal?

What steps are necessary to achieve the goal? Are
you willing to take those steps?

What distractions might arise on the way to this goal?
What is more important, the distraction or the goal?

How can enjoyment and fun be part of the process of
achieving this goal?

Will achieving this goal give you what you REALLY

Are you willing to experience some discomfort on the
way to the goal?

Finally, is this goal an A, a B, or a C goal?

Now you know each of your goals inside and out and
are ready for the last step: choosing the Top Ten.
We’ll talk more about that in the next issue of CTJ
which will be published on April 11.

Get curious about your goals, and you’re well on
your way to having the life you REALLY want.


Don’t ever let them pull you down so low as to hate
Booker T. Washington

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly;
what is essential is invisible to the eye.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

By believing passionately in something that still does
not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever
we have not sufficiently desired.

Nikos Kazantzaki

The thoughts we choose to think are the tools we use
to paint the canvas of our lives.
Louise Hay

5. Celebrating Out Loud

The more you praise and celebrate your life,
the more there is in life to celebrate.
Oprah Winfrey

March 15: My dear friend Kathy Fanning married my
dear friend Jonathan Nelson. Kathy writes, “My
HUSBAND, Jonathan Nelson, and I just returned
from our wonderful honeymoon in Cannon Beach,
OR and the Olympic Peninsula in WA. We were
married on Saturday, March 15 and are celebrating
our love and marriage every day, especially given
these troubled times. I hope we are still delighting in
and giggling about calling each other ‘wife’ and
‘husband’ when we celebrate our 40th wedding

Celebrate the events, miracles, blessings,
achievements, gifts of your life with us at

6. Opportunities for the Journey:

No matter how you feel about the war in Iraq, I
believe that supporting the men and women who are
involved in it is vitally important. There are many
websites that provide a vehicle for doing that. The
ones listed below are simple and effective to use and
provide a variety of ways to give voice to your
support. Please take a few moments to send these
folks your words of encouragement and comfort as
we continue to pray for peace.

7. Humor: What’s In A Name?

I’ve had this list in my humor files for several years.
It came to me from my friend and fellow coach Phil
Humbert ( who
received it from Amy Wolff in New Zealand. Just a
good simple giggle in this serious time. Enjoy!

If Yoko Ono married Sonny Bono, she’d be Yoko Ono

If Dolly Parton married Salvador Dali, she’d be Dolly

If Bo Derek married Don Ho, she’d be Bo Ho.

If Oprah Winfrey married Deepak Chopra, she’d be
Oprah Chopra.

If Olivia Newton-John married Wayne Newton, then
divorced him to marry Elton John, she’d be Olivia
Newton-John Newton John.

If Sondra Locke married Elliott Ness, then divorced
him to marry Herman Munster, she’d become Sondra
Locke Ness Munster.

If Bea Arthur married Sting, she’d be Bea Sting.

If Liv Ullman married Judge Lance Ito, then divorced
him and married Jerry Mathers, she’d be Liv Ito

If G. Gordon Liddy married Boutros-Boutros Ghali,
then divorced him to marry Kenny G., he’d be G. Ghali G.

Give yourself the gift of curiosity this week, and as
always, Celebrate Life!

Namaste, Margo

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