Subject: 10 Ways to Be Extraordinarily Romantic this Valentine’s DAy

Welcome to Celebrating the Journey!
Monday, February 12, 2001
Issue #53


1. Welcome Notes
2. 10 Ways to Be Extraordinarily Romantic this
Valentine’s Day
3. Coaching:
4. Quotes for Valentine’s Day
5. Humor: Quotes for Valentine’s Day Cynics
6. Celebrating Out Loud!
7. FREE Teleclass on Boundaries. STARTS THIS
8. 3 Coaching Slots Open

1. Welcome Notes

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May Valentine’s Day bring you love from unexpected
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2. 10 Ways to Be Extraordinarily Romantic this
Valentine’s Day

This article was written by Rinatta Paries, Your
Relationship Coach. You can reach her by e-mail at or at her website

Whether you are in a relationship or single, rarely will
Valentine’s Day pass by without your notice. If you are
single and even if you think the day has no significance,
on Valentine’s Day you will think about and want a
relationship more than usual. If you are in a relationship
and Valentine’s does not get celebrated, it will leave hurt
and resentment in it’s wake.

Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to focus on love.
Think of Valentine’s Day as Focus on Love day, as
opposed to Hurt About Lack of Love or Ignore Being
Single or Unhappy Day. Below you will find ways to make
your Focus on Love Day extraordinarily romantic,
whether you are single or in a relationship.

1. The Perfect Day

Couples: See if you can start to notice what your lover
dreams about, wishes for. Listen for small, doable things
that can make a big difference. Alternatively, subtly
question your lover about what he/she pictures as the
perfect Valentine’s Day. Now take the information you
have gathered and make it into a perfect day for him or

Singles: If you had a partner, what would you have them
do to create your perfect Valentine’s Day? Create it for
yourself – love yourself that much.

2. The Perfect Card + One Perfect Rose

Couples: Buy or make a lovely card and then fill it to the
brim with words of love, admiration and appreciation.
When I say fill it to the brim, I mean leave no white space
untouched. Present it with one perfect rose.

Singles: Buy or make a lovely card for yourself, and just as
above, fill it to the brim with words you want to hear
from your future lover. Seal the envelope, so that you can
open it on Valentine’s Day. Present it to yourself with one
perfect rose.

3. Treat Valentine’s Day as the Lover’s Day and not as
Woman’s Day

Couples: Ladies, I have it on good authority that guys
want to be celebrated too. So, get him flowers and candy
and a card, too.

Singles: Guys, give yourself that same wonderful
Valentine’s Day as a relationship partner would give you.
You may feel silly, but you will also feel good.

4. Say Goodbye to Obligation, Say Hello to Open Heart

Couples: Don’t give or do anything from obligation this
Valentine’s Day. Give only from your heart, from love
and treasuring your partner. No matter how good or bad
your relationship is going, get in touch with how much
you truly love and appreciate your partner. Give from that space.

Singles: Don’t beat yourself up for not having a partner
yet. You have not failed. You are not bad. Valentine’s Day
can be Focus on Love for Yourself day as well as Focus on
Love for Another day.

5. The Gift of Undivided Attention

Couples: Give your partner the gift of undivided attention
and see if she or he doesn’t find that the most romantic
thing going.

Singles: Give yourself the gift of your own undivided
attention. Take away all of the distractions and be with
yourself the way you would want your partner to be with

6. Gift of Communication I

Couples: Men, allow your woman to talk about whatever
her heart desires, and listen without fixing at all. Ladies,
let your man talk or answer your question without
finishing his sentences for him, interrupting him, or
moving on to the next topic. See if this doesn’t make
sparks fly.

Singles: Either find a person who will listen to you the
way you need to be heard, or give yourself space and time
to listen to your own thoughts and feelings or to journal.

7. Gift of Communication II

Couples: Ladies, give your man the gift of sitting down
next to him in silence. No talking allowed. Men, give
your lady the gift of talking and sharing from your heart.
No closing down, walling up or running away allowed.

Singles: Either silence or open heart, give yourself
whichever one you need.

8. A Gift with Interest

Couples: Is your partner into computers, and you don’t
know a mouse from a monitor? Or is she into gardening,
but to you a rose is just a rose? Give your partner the gift
of your interest in something that is important to him or
her. Go ahead, ask him or her a question about it and see
the smile light up his or her face.

Singles: Give yourself the gift of time to pursue your
important interest. Take the time to do something that
nourishes you and makes you happy.

9. The Trust

Couples: Ladies, give the man in your life the gift of
trusting him to know how and when to take care of
himself and you. Trust that he will do the best he can for
Valentine’s Day. Gentlemen, hold her trust sacred, and
learn to listen for subtle requests. Then honor them. The
celebration of love will feel good to both of you.

Singles: Today, trust your process and your fate. Today,
trust that you too will be loved and cherished by a partner.
Today, remember all the people who already love and
cherish you.

10. A Shower of Words

Couples: Write your loved one a love letter or poem and
read it to them on Valentine’s Day. Here come the tears.

Singles: Write yourself a love letter or poem, exactly the
way you would want it written by a lover. Read it to
yourself out loud and have Kleenex ready.

Plan to have a happy Valentine’s Day!
Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

3. Coaching:

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4. Quotes for Valentine’s Day

Love is not only something you feel. It is something you
David Wilkerson

End your day by privately looking directly into your eyes
in the mirror and saying, ‘I love you!’ Do this for thirty
days and watch how you transform.
Mark Victor Hansen

Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I
loved, I did not say so.
David Grayson

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,
while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Lao Tzu

5. Humor: Quotes for Valentine’s Day Cynics

Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his
second wife to his success.
Jim Backus

Marriage is like pi – natural, irrational, and very
Lisa Hoffman

By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be
happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a
philosopher…and that is a good thing for any man.

Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an
Mae West

Marriage is bliss. Ignorance is bliss. Therefore …

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.

Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder
and lightning.

Behind every successful man stands an amazed Mother-

6. Celebrating Out Loud

February 15: Rena celebrates her 1 year sobriety

February 6: Terri Cheney celebrated turning 42 years

Sharon Wulf celebrates starting the year 2001 by being
Real Estate sales manager for two small offices and
President of the Local Chapter of Women’s Council of

Debbie Schwab has just landed a big contract for her new
training company which will fill 4 days a week for the
next year. She took a big risk by quitting her job and
starting this company so this is a huge celebration!

E-mail your birthday, anniversary, accomplishment, shift ,
ah-ha or joyful moment to Let us know what
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Let’s spread the joy!

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FEBRUARY: Boundaries: The Self Protectors

Do you often say, “yes,” to things you don’t really want to
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Do you feel guilty when you put your own needs first?

If the answer to any of these questions is yes, it’s time for
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A strong boundary is like an energy field of protection that
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What is a toleration?
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Benefits of being Toleration Free.
How do I identify my tolerations?
Now that I know what they are, what do I do about
Eliminating tolerations
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APRIL: Standards: Raise Yours To Attract High Quality
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February’s Teleclass on Boundaries deals with how others
treat us. This month we will talk about the behavior and
actions to which you hold yourself.

What are high personal standards?
Benefits of having high personal standards.
What happens when one’s standards are too low?
Who do you admire and why?
Aligning your standards with your values.
Choose and live a new standard.

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