Subject: What I Think of You Is None of Your Business. Or Mine!

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produced by Margo Chisholm
Coach, Speaker, Author, Adventurer
Monday, January 24, 2000
Issue #11

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What I Think of You is None of Your Business. Or Mine!

Last week I told you that What You Think of Me Is None
of My Business. It’s equally true that What I Think of You
is None of Your Business. Nor is it mine! “What,” you
say? “How can what I think of you not be my business?
Aren’t I responsible for my own thoughts?” Yes, you are,
absolutely. My question to you is why are you spending
your time thinking about someone else at all? Of course
we hold the people we care about close in our minds and
heart; of course we think about them; of course our
connection with people is important.

The kind of thinking I’m talking about sounds like this:
She doesn’t work as hard as I do. I should earn
more money.
He’s more spiritual than I am.
They don’t spend enough time with their children.
She eats too much.
He doesn’t exercise enough.
If I only had as much money as she does, I could
live my dreams.

The kind of thinking I’m talking about is comparing
ourselves to others; judging others because their values
are different than ours; being “right” by judging others’
behavior; feeling resentment about another person. Guess
who pays the price for that? Not them! They don’t know
what you’re thinking. Your thoughts aren’t taking up
space in their head. They probably know that What You
Think of Them Is None of Their Business anyway! So
who pays the price?

Living in the freedom of our own thoughts and dreams
and goals, not affected by other people’s opinions, also
means that we accept the thoughts and dreams and goals
and behavior of others. Without judging them or
comparing them to us in any way.

As I wrote last week, creating the life we really want
requires that we honor our own values and dreams and
goals and remember that What You Think of Me Is None
of My Business. It also requires that we honor the values
and dreams and goals and opinions of others and
remember that What I Think of You Is None of My
Business Either!


How does your need to be right get in the way of
your relationships?
In what ways do you compare yourselves to others?
What part of your own life are you avoiding by
looking at the lives of others?

Let your judgments go and learn to relish the differences
between us. Imagine how bored we would all be if
everyone thought the same thing, wore the same clothes,
acted the same way! Applaud the idiosyncrasies, the
quirks, the singularity, the individuality of us all.
Celebrate the differences rather than judging. It will free
your spirit!


Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.
Hannah Arendt

A man never discloses his own character so clearly as
when he describes another’s.
Jean Paul Richter

How far you go in life depends on your being tender with
the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with
the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because
someday in your life you will have been all of these.
George Washington Carver


Ethics for the New Millennium by The Dalai Lama.

It is not new thought that our culture has embraced
materialism foolishly thinking that possessions will make
them happy or that we have turned to violence because
we no longer feel connected to one another. The Dalai
Lama here calls for an ethic based on human
interconnection. He believes that true happiness is based
on an inner peace which is not affected by circumstance;
such peace is only attained “when our actions are
motivated by a concern for others.” This Noble Peace
Prize winner underlines the importance of releasing all
that keeps us apart from our fellow human beings. His
book is available for only $17.45 at

Give yourself the gift of freedom from judgment this

Namaste, Margo


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