Subject: What I’ve Learned

Welcome to Celebrating the Journey!
Thursday, January 18, 2001
Issue #50

This is a special edition of Celebrating the Journey which I present

as my gift to you on this, my 53rd birthday. We have all
seen a number of these “What Have I Learned” lists. This one I
find particularly positive and practical. It is a clear reminder for

all of us of what truly matters in our lives. Thank you to my
good friend Janice Ferrazzoli for sharing it with me so I can
share it with you.

Make it a great day!



I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we
understand that friends change.

I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to
hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for

I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over
the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned that you can do something in an instant that will
give you heartache for life.

I’ve learned that it’s taking me a long time to become the person
I want to be.

I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with
loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you can’t.

I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter
how we feel.

I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls

I’ve learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship
is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something
else to take its place.

I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be
done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I’ve learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing
and have the best time.

I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you
when you’re down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to
be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way
you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all
they have.

I’ve learned that maturity has more to do with what types of
experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and
less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the
world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have
influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we

I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean
they don’t love each other And just because they don’t argue, it
doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It

could change your life forever.

I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and
see something totally different.

I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by
people who don’t even know you.

I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to
give, when a friend cries out to you you will find the strength to

I’ve learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a
decent human being.

“At every moment of our life we have an
opportunity to choose joy.”
Henri J. M. Nouwen

Margo Chisholm
Coach, Speaker, Author, Therapist
Partnering you in having success,
freedom and joy in all areas of your life
970-704-9336 fax 970-704-9346


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