Subject: Resistance Is Persistence
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produced by Margo Chisholm
Coach, Speaker, Author, Adventurer
Monday, January 10, 2000
Resistance Is Persistence
It is one of the great ironies of life that only when
we accept something do we have the ability to let it go.
When we resist something, it persists. Change cannot
happen when we deny or hide or fight the thing we want
The first step to creating change is accepting
whatever it is we want to change. Many people believe
that accepting something we don’t like means we are
resigning ourselves to it for the rest of our lives. Nothing
could be further from the truth. To quote from the book
“Life 101” (see Recommended Reading), “Acceptance is
not approval, consent, permission, authorization,
sanction, concurrence, agreement, compliance, sympathy,
endorsement, confirmation, support, ratification,
assistance, advocating, backing, maintaining
authentication, reinforcing, cultivating, encouraging,
furthering, promoting, aiding, abetting or even LIKING
what is.” Acceptance is simply seeing something the way
it is and saying, “That’s the way it is.” Accepting
something doesn’t mean we like it. It does mean we stop
spending time and energy hating or fearing it.
If we don’t accept a situation exactly the way it is,
we will have great difficulty changing it. In truth, if we
don’t accept that situation, we never even know if it really
needs changing! Once we do accept things the way they
are, we have the time and energy and motivation to take
the actions necessary to make the needed changes.
Resistance requires a great deal of time and energy. When
we quit resisting, we can use the freed up resources to
make the desired shifts.
A very clear example of how this works can happen
when we lose something that is important to us. We
search the house top to bottom, bewail to our friends that
we’ve lost this precious object, wake up in the morning
with the missing item the first thing on our minds, spend
a great deal of time each day wondering where it could be,
where we haven’t looked, who could have taken it, what
we could have done with it. The lost item takes up an
enormous amount of space and energy in our life. Finally,
when all hope of finding the object is gone, we accept that
the item is gone and simply let it go. And it shows up a
half hour later.
Create acceptance breaks during your day. Create
one right now. Consciously choose to accept everything
around you, everything inside you, everything about you,
everything about everything. Do it now. If you can’t accept
the way things are around you, accept that!
Acceptance is a habit. It takes practice to develop it.
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.”
pg. 449 of The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
The “failure” of not reaching the summit became a
gateway to a new level of acceptance of myself and the
perfection of the Universe.
pg. 156 of “To The Summit: A Woman’s Journey
Into The Mountains To Find Her Soul”
In order to make things different, first accept them the
way they are.
Acceptance vs. Resignation
Acceptance is about creating the space for action;
resignation is about giving up.
Acceptance is loving; resignation is indifferent.
Acceptance is dynamic; resignation is passive.
Acceptance creates possibility; resignation creates
Life 101: Everything We Wish We Had Learned About
Life In School — But Didn’t by John-Roger and Peter
This is a delightful book chock full of marvelous
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You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought by
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The subtitle of this second book in the Life 101
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Illness – Including Life.” Gerald Clarke, a senior writer for
Time Magazine, called it, “Common sense uncommonly
stated — a roadmap to a happy disposition.” I revisit it
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guidebook for the journey from negativity to gratitude.
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